Table of Contents
Each category is linked to a series of blog posts exploring the stigmas, questions and beliefs relating to the initial stages of Self and sex. The content is expressed through verbal and visual means. The purpose is to get you thinking about what the text or image represents to you or on a societal level. It is meant to provide a platform for conversation while opening up the mind to new perspectives.
Standards and Expectations
There are un-written ‘rules’ which make up the standards that individuals are expected to maintain in order to be a ‘hot prize’ on the market. Yet, how many of these rules are purposely followed by conscious choice, and how many of these rules do people take-up because they feel pressured into doing so.
Body modifications take up a lot of personal time, and how much of this time is reflective on personal values? What I’m asking here is:
Are your beauty routines filled with tasks that make YOU feel good and more true to you?
Or, are you taking up these body modifications for other people?
Are you doing things hoping others will notice you, but in truth, these things aren’t you?
Why is there this need to fit into the ‘cookie-cutter’ body type? A majority of the reasoning may be due to objectification. The act of over-sexualizing objects and the human body are emphasized through the media. Some of the most basic objects have become victim to objectification, including unrealistic beauty standards.
Fruit has become symbolic of sexual endeavors through the classic chocolate covered strawberries, as well as objectifying body parts. How many people can identify physically to the banana/eggplant, or who can say they’ve got some peachy cheeks? In any case, I hope you’re asking yourself how objectification and the advertised body modifications are influencing your daily choices.
Acceptance is usually the key point regarding self-love. It starts with knowing who you are as an individual: your dreams, your desires, your comforts, your love language and your body.
Accepting your approach of giving and accepting love, both mentally and physically, make it that much easier to approach a healthy relationship. Understanding your boundaries and sticking to your guns is extremely important for avoiding neglect, and feeling appreciated. Ultimately, the important questions to ask yourself before talking with other people in your life are:
- What does love mean to me?
- How do I want to be loved?
- Am I open to receiving love?
- Do I respect and accept my personal boundaries?
- Do I respect and accept the boundaries of others?
If you stay true to you, it becomes harder for others to sabotage the love you deserve.
How do we decide which way is best to talk about sex; whether it be in the classroom, at home with your kids, with friends or with your partner? It is a conversation that can be nerve-racking. The acts of sex are usually done behind closed doors, and so the conversation of safe sex/personal wants and needs/boundaries tends to be considered taboo.
In this category of the magazine, we invite you to question what you’ve learned about sex, or have yet to learn. It becomes important to talk about what safe sex means, what desires you hold, the boundaries that you and your partner has, as well as consent. But first:
- When is the best time to start the conversation?
- When is it too early to mention sex?
- Do you find that the conversation about sex happens after the deed is done, when you wish it happened before?
The topics may be hard to bring up, and you may feel vulnerable, but raising your voice to talk about what makes you comfortable, and what your needs are in a relationship, are a few steps that can help for a more positive environment.
Views of Virginity
Virginity. A term defining the lack of action, or more specifically, the lack of sexual intercourse. It’s ironic to think that we have a term for the state before an action has taken place. So the question becomes:
- What does being a virgin mean?
Virginity is often thought as being pure, but is that pure in thought? Pure in action? Pure in what sense? Even when you ask the individual, their sense of virginity alters. Yet, in most cases, virginity is often held in high regards… especially if you’re a young female. It’s not surprising that a virgin is also a term used to define a young maiden. So if being a virgin means being pure, the question then turns to:
- What does it mean to loose your virginity?
There seems to be a negative stigma surrounding the thoughts of loosing one’s virginity. In other terms, the acts of sexual intercourse become very taboo. Why is something that is so natural considered so shameful?
The list of explanations reside in the vulnerability of sex. The points can go on extensively. Some of the reasons include;
- exposing your physical body or metaphysical desires
- manipulation by other people
- opening yourself up to criticism
- insecurities saying you’re not good enough
Deciding to commit to an intimate, sexual relationship is extremely nerve-racking. To put it simply, sex is scary. Yet, if you remember the value in self-love, vulnerability doesn’t have a negative toll, but turns into the beauty of sharing yourself intimately with someone that wants to reciprocate.